"O Tannenbaum!"

            It's Christmas, and the sights, sounds, and smells of the season are everywhere.  Did you ever wonder where your favorite Christmas traditions came from?  If the first Christmas, the birth of the Christ child, happened over two thousand years ago in the Middle East—how come so many of our traditions have to do with snow?  In one pivotal movement, when the apostle Paul had decided to take the gospel eastward, he had a vision in which a man from Macedonia pleaded for him to bring Christian teaching westward (Acts 16:6-10).  From that time on, Christianity became a predominantly European religion, and its traditions derived largely from Europe as well.  Hence, the cold weather traditions.  The Roman Catholic church celebrated the Christ Mass as a minor observance, but as the faith reached deeper into pagan territory, Christianity began to develop holiday traditions that competed with non-Christian practices. 

Lights.  The winter solstice, called Yule by many pagans, marked the shortest day of the year.  This meant it was the last day that the days grew shorter, and the first day that light would begin to return.  Pagans would light a Yule log to welcome the light.  This seemed to correspond to the Jewish festival of lights called Hanukah.  Likewise, i made sense for Christians to celebrate the increasing light as the time when Jesus, the Light of the World, was born—even though he was probably born in springtime.  All of our Christmas holidays involving lights trace back to these roots.

Mistletoe.  One website says, “According to Francis X. Weiser, in his Handbook of Christian Feasts and Customs: ‘The Mistletoe was a sacred plant in the pagan religion of the Druids in Britain. It was believed to have all sorts of miraculous qualities: the power of healing diseases, making poisons harmless, living fertility to humans and animals, protecting from witchcraft, banning evil spirits, bringing good luck and great blessings. In fact, it was considered so sacred that even enemies who happened to meet beneath a Mistletoe in the forest would lay down their arms, exchange a friendly greeting, and keep a truce until the following day. From this old custom grew the practice of suspending Mistletoe over a doorway or in a room as a token of good will and peace to all comers. [p. 104]’”[i]

Holly.  Pagan yuletide celebrations involved decorating with these holy plants.  The Scottish and Irish Society of the Black Hills reports, “To the Druids, it was holly's evergreen nature that made it special. They believed that it remained green to help keep the earth beautiful when the deciduous trees (such as the oak, which they also held sacred) shed their leaves. It was also their custom to wear it in their hair when they ventured into the forests to watch the priests collecting mistletoe.”[ii]  As Christians adopted these plants for their own use, they changed the significance of the red berries from representing the blood of the goddess, to the blood of Christ.

The Christmas Tree.  History.com tells us, “Germany is credited with starting the Christmas tree tradition as we now know it in the 16th century when devout Christians brought decorated trees into their homes. Some built Christmas pyramids of wood and decorated them with evergreens and candles if wood was scarce. It is a widely held belief that Martin Luther, the 16th-century Protestant reformer, first added lighted candles to a tree. Walking toward his home one winter evening, composing a sermon, he was awed by the brilliance of stars twinkling amidst evergreens. To recapture the scene for his family, he erected a tree in the main room and wired its branches with lighted candles.”[iii]  What started as the German Tannenbaum became the English Christmas tree.

Jolly Old St. Nicholas.  The St. Nicholas Center reports: “The true story of Santa Claus begins with Nicholas, who was born during the third century in the village of Patara. At the time the area was Greek and is now on the southern coast of Turkey. His wealthy parents, who raised him to be a devout Christian, died in an epidemic while Nicholas was still young. Obeying Jesus' words to "sell what you own and give the money to the poor," Nicholas used his whole inheritance to assist the needy, the sick, and the suffering. He dedicated his life to serving God and was made Bishop of Myra while still a young man. Bishop Nicholas became known throughout the land for his generosity to those in need, his love for children.”[iv]  Today, “Santa Claus” gives gifts in honor of St. Nicholas of Myra’s generosity, and to honor the Christ child who is present in all children.

We have so many Christmas traditions that it would be a long article indeed if we were to discuss them all.  What can Christians take away from a discussion of the history of the holiday?  Some Christians believe it’s wrong to incorporate practices from other religions in our celebrations, but I have a different opinion.

It’s good to have traditions.  Just as Christians’ spiritual ancestors, the Jewish people, had traditions to celebrate culturally and religiously significant events, out traditions reinforce those things that make our faith so dear.

Traditions teach our children.  In Deuteronomy 6:4-12, God tells the Hebrew people to impart their heritage to their children, and to do it using holy narrative, sacred song, and even divine decorating as tools for teaching.  As Christians, we do the same thing with our Christian traditions.

It’s okay to borrow.  Psalm 24:1[v] says, “The earth is the Lord’s, and everything in it.   The world and all its people belong to him.”  Remember, unless you’re 100% Jewish, it’s not just the Jewish people who are your spiritual ancestors.  You are the offspring of the world, and it’s important to remember that all cultures have something to offer.  It’s been said that “whatever is good, belongs to me, as a Christian.”  So as Christians it’s okay to borrow, to adopt, to adapt, and to make something our own. 

Ecclesiastes 1:9-10 says, “History merely repeats itself.  It has all been done before.  Nothing under the sun is truly new.  People say, ‘Here is something new!’ But actually it is old; nothing is ever truly new.”  When Christians encounter ancient traditions that come from outside of our own faith and practice, we have three choices.  We can reject them outright, we can receive them in their totality, or we can redeem them, and make them out own.  This is what we have done with the world’s winter traditions—we have made them Christian.  From donating to charity to decking the halls, from carols to candles, we love our Christmas traditions.  We don’t need to reject them just because we find out where they came from.  All that is good belongs to us as Christians.  If we have “baptized” those traditions and placed them under the blood of Jesus, they become Christian practices for us.    So I hope, if grinches come around to steal the joy of your Christmas traditions, you won’t let their humbuggery get you down.  Deck the halls, light the tree, give your gifts, and do it all to honor Jesus!

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[i] http://www.blackhillscelticevents.org/Events/CelticMistle.htm  November 12, 2018.

[ii] http://www.blackhillscelticevents.org/Events/CelticHolly.htm.  November 12, 2018.

[iii] https://www.history.com/topics/christmas/history-of-christmas-trees.  November 12, 2018.

[iv] http://www.stnicholascenter.org/pages/who-is-st-nicholas/.  November 12, 2018.

[v] Scripture quotations taken from the NLT.

"The Little Drummer Boy"

            For the past five years, Mary Burton has asked me to play the drum while her daughter Barbara plays the piano, as we regale the church with our rendition of The Little Drummer Boy.  Written in 1941 by Katherine Kennicott Davis as Carol of the Drum, and popularized over a decade later, the song tells the story of a young boy who came to worship the baby Jesus.  As the song progresses, we hear him tell about his unorthodox gift.  I’ve included the lyrics, minus the repetition and drumming words:

Come they told me

A new born king to see

Our finest gifts we bring

To lay before the king

So to honor him

When we come

Little baby

I am a poor boy too

I have no gift to bring

That's fit to give our king

Shall I play for you

Mary nodded

The ox and lamb kept time

I played my drum for him

I played my best for him

Then he smiled at me

Me and my drum[i]

            Though this is a favorite Christmas song for many, you might not stop to look at the message it gives.  This message is, I believe, the central understanding the church needs to have, as it looks to the future. 

1.      Holy Curiosity.  As the boy was surrounded by magi from distant lands, diverse races,  and probably other religions, so the Western church finds itself overwhelmed by the world’s diversity that has shown up at our doors.  How we interact with them will determine the future of the church.  The little drummer boy was no doubt from Bethlehem.  He could have tried to shoo away the foreigners who showed up in his town.  Could have roused a mob to do the shooing, anyway.  But instead, he responded to the outsiders with curiosity instead of defensiveness.  Instead of feeling threatened, he decided to welcome and include them.  If the Western church is going to survive the next generation or two, we’ve got to do the same.  Unfortunately, too many Christians have taken a defensive posture against “outsiders,” instead of showing the kind of holy curiosity that will allow us to grow.

2.      Creative Generosity.  As the magi laid their lavish presents before the babe in the manger, the little boy stood by sheepishly, feeling that he had nothing to give.  Then he realized that, if he was creative in his understanding of generosity, he had something quite valuable to lend to the occasion.  What he was lacking in finances, he made up for in enthusiasm, creativity, and willingness to share.  He realized that creative generosity isn’t all bout gold, frankincense, myrrh, tithes, or offerings.  He understood that he could give his heart, his talent, and his time.  And Jesus smiled at that.  If the church is going to continue into the future, we’ve got to practice creative generosity.  The older generation that used to tithe (give 10% of their income) religiously is either dying out, or is on a fixed income and often unable to support the church as they once did.  The younger generation struggles financially like no generation before it, so often they can’t afford to throw money into church coffers.  This could bode poorly for the financial future of the institution—unless we practice creative generosity.  We’ve got to reimagine our personal and our church budgets, giving imaginatively out of more than just our finances, and re-visioning what it means to give to God our very best.

3.      Worship Velocity.  (I’ll tell you what I mean by that in a minute.)  When the little drummer boy decided to give his best to Jesus, he pulled out his drum and began to bang.  We like to sing about the Silent Night, but just imagine how this impromptu worship service split the silence!  That little boy gave up all pretense of reverence and woke up the cows, donkeys, chickens, and the baby himself as he beat his drum to the glory of God.  He knew something about worship velocity.  Velocity is the speed at which something is carried forward.  “A little child shall lead them,” says the Bible—and that little child did!  He pounded his heart out in worship, moving the magi and the holy family forward with such velocity that they had no choice but to join in the song.

Of course, you know the story of the Little Drummer Boy isn’t in the Bible.  That’s a good thing—because your story isn’t in the Bible, either!  At its core, the Christmas story invites into the narrative those who don’t belong.  The eastern travelers didn’t belong in Bethlehem.  The shepherds didn’t belong in polite company any more than a newborn baby belonged in a stable.  But God’s plan invites and includes all who will come by faith.  So why not add a little drummer boy to the tale?  Why not include YOU, for that matter?  And as for you, why not include all the “others” that you don’t think necessarily fit into your tale?  You’ll be the richer for it, as they bring their unique gifts and personalities and traditions. 

This year, maybe you’ll hear The Little Drummer Boy at church or on the radio.  I hope when you hear it, you’ll be reminded of what the church needs, if it is going to carry the message of Jesus into the future.  We need some holy curiosity, some creative generosity, and we need to move forward with worship velocity.  I hope your Christmas traditions won’t simply be ones that “take you back.”  I hope they will launch you and your church into a brilliant future.

Merry Christmas!

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[i] Songwriters: Henry Onorati / Katherine K. Davis / Harry Simeone

Little Drummer Boy lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, International Korwin Corp

Preparing the Way for the Next Person

This past Sunday, I gave my resignation to the people of Bethel Baptist Church, where I have served as pastor for the past five and a half years.  It's a time of sorrow as I leave them and my family in Virginia, but also a time of absolute joy as I prepare to turn my fiance into my wife by the exchange of vows and rings.  A new social work job in Washington State awaits me, as well as a new life, eventually in Canada, with Christina.

As I reflect back on my twenty-six years of ministry in Virginia Baptist churches, I remember many people saying to me, "We're glad for your ministry at our church, and you need to know that the things you did here were absolutely instrumental to prepare us for the next pastor who followed after you."  Specifically, people have said that to me regarding the last two churches I served before coming to Bethel.

Now, upon hearing this, my ego has said, "Wait a minute!  I believe my job was more than just preparing the way for somebody else!"  Because we all like to think that what we're doing right now is more than just a foundation for another person to build on.  But now that I've had time to reflect on this, I am not just comfortable with that idea--I embrace it.  After all, the pastor who came before me in every church I served was probably told the same thing, that they prepared the way for me.  Generations come and go, and all we ever do is build on what was given to us, and prepare the way for the next.

My morning devotion time led me to the ministry of John the Baptist, who was sent by God to prepare the way for Jesus.  While his ministry was good for its own sake, and many people were touched by it, his mission was to prepare people's hearts for something beyond himself.  In Matthew 3:1-12, there are four phrases that stand out to me, that I'd like to share with you.

1. Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.  That word "repent" simply means "change."  You can't encounter Jesus without there being some kind of change in your life.  Too many Christians expect to enter heaven without any substantial change to their lives or personalities--but the presence of Christ in our hearts demands change.  It means more than embracing God.  It means embracing all people, and learning to love unconditionally, the way that Jesus does.  Because heaven is "at hand," (meaning HERE and NOW), our lives ought to be fundamentally changed.  Instead of resisting change in our lives (and in our churches), we need to embrace it.
2. Prepare the way of the Lord.  In other words, it's not about me, and it's not about you.  It never was.  It's about the realm of God expanding in the world.  It's about the Way, the Truth, and the Life coursing like blood through the veins of the universe, pulsing and drumming a beat to which we can all dance.  My job, your job, is not to make it happen, but simply to prepare the way.  We can't make it happen.  We can't force it.  As ministers--as Christians--all any of us can do is prepare the way for God.  
3. Bear fruit.  It's impossible to call yourself an "alive" kind of Christian without bearing fruit.  The living God wants living disciples to produce good things.  This fruit is described as love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.  When you let the Spirit of God change you--really change you to your core--then you'll be fruitful.  And this fruit will nourish other people, so that they, too, will be ready for the coming of Christ into their lives.
4. Do not presume.  The longer phrase is, "Do not presume to say to yourselves, 'We have Abraham as our father, for I tell you, God is able from these stones to raise up children for Abraham." John is telling them not to rely on their heritage, which can bog them down in religiosity, but to seek the things of the Spirit.  This applies to Christians today as well.  I think that the simple phrase "do not presume" simply reminds us not to go through life presumptuously.  It's an invitation to be open to what God is doing, rather than assuming we already have it all figured out.  Maybe God is doing a new thing, that your fathers and mothers never dreamed of!  Be open--and so prepare the way of the Lord.

As I shift from full-time Christian ministry, to become a case manager who helps homeless people, I'm having to come to terms with my sense of identity.  I'm aware that my calling hasn't changed--only the setting.  I'm still ministering.  This is still Gospel work.  It's just the nature of ministry that has changed.  And even if my job were in a button factory, I'd still be a minister.  We all are ministers, if we take up the call of John the Baptist.  We all are evangelists, if we embrace change, if we prepare the way of the Lord, if we bear fruit, and if we faithfully refuse to be presumptuous.

So as I leave Bethel, and as I leave the full-time pastorate, I hope people will tell me, "Our next pastor is doing such a great job!  The church is growing and flourishing!"  Because in part, I hope I've contributed to the success of the next man or woman to fill the pulpit, just as the pastor who preceded me contributed to mine.

And I hope that you will see that your job as a parent, as a teacher, as a manager, laborer, helper, employer or employee, or whatever your role is on this earth--is all about preparing the way for the next person to come along.  It's about giving them something to build on.  And it's about preparing the way of the Lord.

Be blessed.  

"Baby, It's Cold Outside"

            As you listen to Christmas songs this season, you may hear “Baby It’s Cold Outside.”[i]  The song a duet, typically between a male vocalist who is referred to as “wolf” in the score, and a female vocalist who is called “mouse” in the score.  As the catchy tune frolics on, the woman insists that she has to go home, but the man tells her it’s cold outside, and she really should stay the night.  She says that her family will be worried, and he insists on pouring her another drink.  She says that the she’s concerned about her reputation, but he doesn’t listen, continuing to pour on manipulative compliments.  She says that he ought to say no to his advances, but he moves closer, asking, “what’s the sense in hurting my pride?”  She threatens the reprisals of her family, but he waves that off.  At one point she asks, “Say, what’s in this drink?” indicating that she believes that he’s drugged her to get her to stay.  The more she resists, the more he insists.  Finally, he gets his way and she decides to stay—but one is left wondering whether with all the pressure it really was her choice. 

            Now, I know I’m treading on thin ice by slaughtering this sacred cow—but just because it’s a popular Christmas song with a catchy tune and long tradition, that doesn’t make it right.  In fact, I’d say it’s not a Christmas song at all—it’s just a winter song.  And no matter what time of the year it is, it’s never too cold outside for a man to respect a woman’s wishes, and it’s never the wrong season for a woman to expect that a man should understand that her “no” means “no.”  In fact, the man in the song doesn’t really love the woman.  He’s not genuinely concerned for her warmth and safety—he’s just trying to get his way so he can have his way, if you know what I mean.

            If you don’t see a problem with this song, then you’re probably a part of the problem.  Ours is a culture that sexualizes and disrespects women, a culture that empowers men or at least excuses them if they treat women as sexual objects rather than precious treasures that they are.  Unfortunately, demeaning and devaluing women has a long and glorious history that goes back to Old Testament times.  Women in those days were bought and sold in marriage.  Women were seen as such a burden that a father had to pay a dowry in order to convince a man to marry his daughter.  In other cases, if a woman was to be valued, she was treasured as an object of property or wealth.  Her virginity had a dollar amount attached to it.  Exodus 22:16-17 says, “If a man entices a virgin who is not betrothed, and lies with her, he shall surely pay the bride-price for her to be his wife. If her father utterly refuses to give her to him, he shall pay money according to the bride-price of virgins.”[ii]  The reason the man must pay her father is that he had defiled her, and that she is used goods, so to speak.  So we have a long tradition of treating women like they are sexual objects, whose virtue is to be bought, sold, or just grabbed by men.  Unfortunately, popular Christmas songs bear that out.

            In Deuteronomy 22, a woman’s desirability as a wife was measured by whether or not she was a virgin when she got married.  And if she wasn’t a virgin, she’d be stoned to death.  People didn’t believe a woman’s testimony.  A rape was only considered a rape if she cried out, and if there was someone who heard her.  Rapists could get the death penalty—a harsher sentence than today—but there was a way out of that.  If the woman was unmarried and he seizes her and lies with her, and they are found out, then the man who lay with her shall give to the young woman’s father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife because he has humbled her; he shall not be permitted to divorce her all his days (vv. 28-29).”  So if your daughter is raped, she’s lost her value—so the best thing is to get her rapist to pay you and then to marry her, and she can never divorce him.  You see how women were devalued in those days?  Do you really think it’s much better today?

            Right now, celebrities, politicians, and well-known businessmen are being called on the carpet for sexual harassment, sexual assault, and rape.  The #MeToo and Time’s Up movements are all about confronting sexual harassment and sexual assault, declaring that it’s time for these things to end, and calling men to act like men, not animals.  Now, I’ll be the first to say that sexual harassment and assault isn’t always perpetrated by men, but that is the overwhelming majority of the case.  We’ve got to teach our boys that when a woman says “no,” that means “no,” and that saying, “Baby, it’s cold outside,” and arguing and manipulating is wrong.  We’ve got to teach them that if she has any reason to ask, “Say, what’s in this drink?” you’ve already gone too far.  No woman should ever feel unsafe around a gentleman—in fact, God gave gentlemen to women to keep them safe, not to make them feel vulnerable. 

            Instead of following the sexual mores of his day, Jesus always treated women with respect.  He valued them, and treated them as equals—even and perhaps especially those women who had been sexualized by society.  He taught people to treat others the way they want to be treated (Matthew 7:12).  Men, this means respecting, honoring, defending, cherishing all women, and never treating them as sexual objects, worthy of harassment, assault, and rape.  It means treating all women the way you’d treat your mother or sister—with dignity, respect, and godly love.

            Not only do we need to teach our boys to treat women well—we’ve also got to teach our girls not to be mice who fall for wolfish words.  Don’t let “Baby, it’s cold outside,” or any other convincing, harassing, or manipulative words talk you into giving up what you’re not ready to give away.  Don’t be afraid to meet force with force—because if he’s treating you the way he wants to be treated, and he’s sexually assaulting you, then you have the right to use force to get away.  And if he takes what you never meant to give, don’t ever let shame tell you that it’s your fault or that you’ve lost your value.  You, my dear, are a daughter of the King, and are always precious in God’s eyes. 

            In Matthew 5:7, Jesus says, “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.”  This means saying what you mean, and meaning what you say.  It also means respecting another person’s “yes” as “yes,” and letting their “no” mean “no.”  It means being a person of integrity—in the good weather and the bad, and even when it’s cold outside.

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[i] “Baby, It’s Cold Outside.”  1944.  Words by Frank Loesser. 

[ii] Scripture quotations are taken from the NKJV.

"Santa Claus is Coming to Town"

            Have you ever had that feeling like someone was watching you?  Like, maybe you’re out hunting, and you’re in your deer stand, and you get the tingling feeling on the back of your neck that YOU are the one being hunted.  Or maybe you’re at the park, watching your grandchild play on the monkey bars, and you get the distinct impression that somebody’s watching you.  It can be a creepy feeling, can’t it?  In 1983, The Police sang, “Every breath you take / Every move you make / Every bond you break / Every step you take / I'll be watching you.”[i]  Sometimes those words seem all too true.

            Blaine was a deacon at a church I served years ago.  He’s also one of the police.  Not the band, but a detective for the city of Charlottesville.  He told me that he was reviewing the security recordings of Michael’s Craft Store, looking for someone who had stolen from the company.  The manager pointed to someone on the video, riding the escalator.  “That’s the guy,” said the manager.  “No, that’s not the guy,” Blaine told him.  “No, that’s the guy,” the manager insisted.  “I’m telling you, that’s not the guy,” Blain said again.  “How do you know that’s not the guy?” the manager asked.  Blain said, “Because that’s my pastor!” 

            Yep—sometimes you get the feeling you’re being watched, and other times you’re being watched without even knowing it.  About this time of year, as we look forward to Christmas, you might hear the old song “Santa Claus is Comin’ to Town,”[ii]  which has been performed by artists such as Bing Crosby, Mariah Carey, Bruce Springsteen, and Justin Beiber.  You know the words: 

You better watch out, you better not cry

Better not pout, I'm telling you why

Santa Claus is comin' to town

He's making a list and checking it twice

Gonna find out who's naughty and nice

Santa Claus is comin' to town

He sees you when you're sleepin'

He knows when you're a wake

He knows if you've been bad or good

So be good for goodness sake

            This song has been a favorite of parents who want to convince their children that they’d better be good all year long.  We get the idea of an omniscient Santa at the top of the world, who can see everything, and who doles out rewards (toys) and even punishments (coal and switches) based on good or bad behavior.  My question is—is that the idea that most of us have of God?  And if it is, how does that make you feel?

            The Bible says a lot about God’s omniscience—God’s quality of knowing everything.  That’s tied closely to God’s omnipresence—God’s quality of being everywhere at once.  Psalm 139 gives a good example of this. 

O Lord, you have examined my heart
    and know everything about me.
You know when I sit down or stand up.
    You know my thoughts even when I’m far away.
You see me when I travel
    and when I rest at home.
    You know everything I do.
You know what I am going to say
    even before I say it, Lord.
You go before me and follow me.
    You place your hand of blessing on my head.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
    too great for me to understand! (vv. 1-6)[iii]

            The fact is that, even more than Santa Claus, the very real God knows everything about you.  Hemming you in means that God completely surrounds you, is inside you and outside you..  In poetic language, the psalmist says God’s presence is inescapable even in the darkest depths of death.

 I can never escape from your Spirit!
    I can never get away from your presence!
If I go up to heaven, you are there;
    if I go down to the grave, you are there.
If I ride the wings of the morning,
    if I dwell by the farthest oceans,
even there your hand will guide me,
    and your strength will support me.
I could ask the darkness to hide me
    and the light around me to become night—
    but even in darkness I cannot hide from you.
To you the night shines as bright as day.
    Darkness and light are the same to you. (vv. 7-12)

            God is inescapable!  What stands out to me is that no matter where you are in the place of the dead, God is there.  I was always taught that if heaven is where God is, then hell is where God isn’t.  But Psalm 139 says that there’s no place where God isn’t—and that even in hell, God is still loving people.  This echoes the words of Psalm 23:4, “Even when I walk through the darkest valley, I will not be afraid, for you are close beside me.”  Just as God will continue to hold you and know you after death, God also knew you before you were born.  The psalmist continues:

You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body
    and knit me together in my mother’s womb.
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
    Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.
You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion,
    as I was woven together in the dark of the womb.
You saw me before I was born.
    Every day of my life was recorded in your book.
Every moment was laid out
    before a single day had passed.

How precious are your thoughts about me,^[b] O God.
    They cannot be numbered!
I can’t even count them;
    they outnumber the grains of sand!
And when I wake up,
    you are still with me!

…Search me, O God, and know my heart;
    test me and know my anxious thoughts.
Point out anything in me that offends you,
    and lead me along the path of everlasting life. (vv. 13-18, 23-24)

            So, from inside to out, from beginning to end, God is with you and God knows you.  The question is—is this good news or bad news to you?  It depends on your disposition toward God.  For those who view God as an Orwellian Big Brother, or for those who compare God’s omniscience and omnipresence to the TV director from The Hunger Games, this could be a bad thing.  If God sees you when you’re sleeping, knows when you’re awake, and knows when you’ve been bad or good, then this could challenge your independence.  But if you’re favorably disposed toward God, then the idea of this all-knowing, ever-present, all-powerful God might remind you of insurance companies that say things like, “You’re in good hands with Allstate,” or “Nationwide is on your side,” or “Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there.”  With this kind of God, you know you’re more protected than if you were under the Traveler’s Insurance umbrella.  Today, I’d like to invite you to welcome the all-seeing gaze of God, to invite the permanent presence of the Father.  He’s here anyway, and he sees anyway—but it’s so much better when you want him.

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[i] “I’ll Be Watching You.”  The Police.  Album: “Synchronicity.”  A&M.  1983.

[ii] “Santa Claus is Comin’ to Town.”  Words: Haven Gillespie.  Music: J. Fred Coots.  1932.  Published by

TOY TOWN TUNES INC; GILLESPIE HAVEN MUSIC PUBLISHING CO.  First sung by Eddie Cantor on his radio show at Thanksgiving 1934.

[iii] Scripture quotations taken from the NLT.

Book of Virtues # 12 - "Are You a Turducken?"

            Thanksgiving has come and gone.  You know what that means—a time to gather with friends and family, a time to focus on spirituality and gratitude for what God has given you, a time to feast your soul on the bounty of God’s grace.  If you’re like most Americans, this sounds like an utterly unrealistic explanation of the holiday, which today is all about football and food.  In terms of food, we have a way of going over the top with new creations.  You’ve probably heard of the turducken—a turkey stuffed with a duck, stuffed with a chicken.  Sometimes our celebrating can get a little excessive, and we can find ourselves caught up in over-indulgence.  At the end of Thanksgiving Day, you can end up feeling like YOU are a turducken—over-stuffed and overindulged.  Don’t get me wrong—there’s nothing wrong with celebrating.  Proverbs 9:1-5[i] says:

Wisdom has built her house;
    she has set up its seven pillars.
She has prepared her meat and mixed her wine;
    she has also set her table.
She has sent out her servants, and she calls
    from the highest point of the city,
“Let all who are simple come to my house!”
To those who have no sense she says,
“Come, eat my food
    and drink the wine I have mixed.
Leave your simple ways and you will live;
    walk in the way of insight.”

            No, there’s nothing wrong with celebrating.  In Proverbs, Wisdom calls us to a feast.  Jesus frequently feasted with friends, to the degree that those who misunderstood called him a glutton and a drunk.[ii]  But of course, Jesus was the sinless example of self-control, which is one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit.[iii]  When Wisdom invites us to a feast, it’s within the limits of common sense.  But Proverbs, our book of virtues, discourages overindulgence.  Verses 13-18 say:

Folly is an unruly woman;
    she is simple and knows nothing.
She sits at the door of her house,
    on a seat at the highest point of the city,
calling out to those who pass by,
    who go straight on their way,
“Let all who are simple come to my house!”
To those who have no sense she says,
“Stolen water is sweet;
    food eaten in secret is delicious!”
But little do they know that the dead are there,
    that her guests are deep in the realm of the dead.

            Wisdom may call us to feast with her, but Folly invites us to overindulge, binging on stolen water and food eaten in secret.  Now, personally, I’ve never seen anybody steal water.  It’s like, remember when you would go over to Grandma’s house and you’d ask if you could have some of that water out of the little glass water dish on the side table?  And Grandma’d say, “No, you, you can’t have any water.  You have to wait til after dinner.”  But then you’d sneak it when she wasn’t looking.  Then you’d be off around the corner, drinking that water and saying to yourself, “Mmm—this stolen water sure is sweet!”  No—if that happened, it’d be a sign you were way overcommitted to that water, wouldn’t it?  Then you’d run off and sneak some food.  One of the marks of an eating disorder is when people feel the need to hoard food in secret stashes or eat when nobody can see or judge them.  Overindulging on food is common at Thanksgiving.  So is overindulging on alcohol.  Proverbs warns: “Wine is a mocker and beer a brawler; whoever is led astray by them is not wise (20:1).” Proverbs 23:19-21 says, “Listen, my son, and be wise, and set your heart on the right path: Do not join those who drink too much wine or gorge themselves on meat, for drunkards and gluttons become poor, and drowsiness clothes them in rags.”

            The Bible puts drunkenness on par with gluttony—in fact, they are the same thing.  Both are overindulgence.  But Wisdom encourages self-discipline.  William Bennett, editor of The Book of Virtues, writes, “In self-discipline, one makes a ‘disciple’ of oneself.  One is one’s own teacher, trainer, coach, and ‘disciplinarian.’…There is much unhappiness and personal distress in the world because of failures to control tempers, appetites, passions, and impulses.  ‘Oh, if only I had stopped myself’ is an all too familiar refrain.”[iv] 

            It’s easy to get yourself into a sticky mess with over-indulgence.  But food and drink aren’t the only things you can over-indulge in.  Remember the story of King Midas, who never had his fill of gold?  Like a superhero, he was granted the ability to turn everything he touched to gold.  At first, that seemed like a great thing, a fantastic way to get even richer.  But he couldn’t pick up food to eat, because it turned to gold.  He couldn’t take a glass of water, because it became gold.  When his little daughter threw her arms around him and kissed him, she turned to golden statue.  He’d lost all that was worth having—so having learned his lesson, he pleaded for his gift to be taken away, and everything was restored.[v]

            There are plenty of people who have overindulged in one way or another—whether that’s food or drink or smoking or drugs or sex or gaming or social media or gambling or anything else that you once thought you could control, but that now controls you.  Now, like Midas, you’re pleading for God to take away the consequences of your addictive behavior.  Maybe you’ve seen your little daughter turn to gold right in front of your eyes, because of your actions.  Maybe you’ve seen your family suffer because of what you’ve done. The sad truth is that you must live with the consequences—but God can heal you of the disease of your addiction, if you’ll let him.  Jesus recognized that “the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak (Matthew 26:41).”  Hebrews 4:15-16 says that Jesus will help us.  “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.”  When you beat yourself up because you’ve blown it—remember that God gives grace. 

If this message has hit you where you live, the first step is admitting that you’re a turducken.  This is why people in an A.A. meeting stand up and say, “Hi, my name is Bob, and I’m an alcoholic.”  You’ve got to get honest with yourself and others about the problem you have.  Maybe you’ve got some other kind of addiction going on.  You’ve stuffed yourself so full and overindulged in whatever way, and it’s become a problem.  Because of this problem, life has lost its sanity, and it’s no longer sustainable.  You can see that this problem is hurting the people that you love, and it’s hurting you.  There are people who can help.  Talk with your pastor or doctor or counselor.  Step into a local twelve-step recovery meeting.  Make sure you get the help you need.  God gives grace, but only you can take the first step. 

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[i] Scripture quotations taken from the NIV.

[ii] Matthew 11:19; Luke 7:34

[iii] Galatians 5:23.

[iv] Bennett, William J.  The Book of Virtues.  Simon & Schuster: New York.  1993.  Pg. 21.

[v] Hawthorne, Nathaniel.  “The Golden Touch.”  Ibid, pp. 63-66