Monday, October 1, 2018

Book of Virtues # 6 - "Won't You Be My Neighbor?"


            Fred Rogers began his work in children’s television programming with the live WQED Pittsburgh show “The Children’s Corner,” where Josie Carey was the host and Rogers was puppeteer, composer, and organist.  Rogers attended and graduate from Pittsburgh Theological Seminary, and was ordained a Presbyterian minister.  His denomination recognized his call to ministry, but understood that broadly and had the insight to charge him with continuing his work with children and their families through his television ministry.  The Canadian Broadcasting Company invited him north, where he produced a show called “Misterogers.”  “In 1968 it was made available for national distribution through the National Educational Television (NET) which later became Public Broadcasting Service (PBS).”[i]

            According to the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette, Tom Hanks will begin filming his new movie, “You are My Friend,” this fall in the Steel City, where the TV show was originally produced.  The article says, “The 50th anniversary of “Mister Rogers Neighborhood” was in February, sparking tributes across the globe, as well as films, TV specials, opinion pieces and online features.  Morgan Neville’s critically acclaimed documentary “Won’t You Be My Neighbor?” is currently in theaters.”[ii]  This documentary portrays the mild-mannered, soft-spoken Fred Rogers as a radical, who promoted racial equality during a time of inequality, and who addressed tough issues such as death and divorce, in a way that kids could understand.  His message was simple: “Love is at the root of everything.  All learning, all relationships.  Love, or the lack of it.”  Fred said, “The greatest thing that we can do is to help somebody know that they are loved and capable of loving.”[iii]

            Many of us grew up either showing Mr. Rogers’ program to our kids, watching it as kids, or both.  His life is a quiet, gentle reminder of the virtue of being a neighbor.  I expect that Reverend Rogers would point to the Bible, and perhaps to the Book of Proverbs as a book of virtues that teaches us more about what it means to be a neighbor.  Maybe your next door neighbor happens to be your best friend, but for most people, neighbors are people that they have to learn to live with, whether they like them or not. 

First, Proverbs addresses good relations between neighbors who are friendly in their acquaintance.  You want to maintain good relations, because there may be a time when you need your neighbor.  27:10[iv] says, “Do not forsake your friend or a friend of your family, and do not go to your relative’s house when disaster strikes you—better a neighbor nearby than a relative far away.”  Neighborliness goes a long way, but Proverbs 25:16-17 reminds us not to overdo it.  If you find honey, eat just enough—too much of it, and you will vomit.  Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house—too much of you, and they will hate you.”  This reminds me of Benjamin Franklin’s reminder that houseguests, like fish, stink after three days.  Being neighborly is a good thing, but don’t force your unwanted presence.  27:14 cautions against too much of a good thing, saying, “If anyone loudly blesses their neighbor early in the morning, it will be taken as a curse.”  Be friendly with your neighbor—but know the extent to which you’re wanted or not.

            Next, Proverbs also reminds us to be good to our neighbors.  3:27-30 says, “Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act.  Do not say to your neighbor, ‘Come back tomorrow and I’ll give it to you’—when you already have it with you.  Do not plot harm against your neighbor, who lives trustfully near you.  Do not accuse anyone for no reason—when they have done you no harm.”  In Mr. Rogers’ neighborhood, these things ought to come as second nature, but unfortunately, they don’t.  These are things we need to be taught.  Proverbs 14:21 says, “It is a sin to despise one’s neighbor, but blessed is the one who is kind to the needy.”

            Finally, it ought It also ought to go without saying, that if we’re to be kind to our neighbors, we should also not be horrible to them.  But Proverbs addresses this as well.  “A violent person entices their neighbor and leads them down a path that is not good (16:29).”  Proverbs 21:10 says, “The wicked crave evil; their neighbors get no mercy from them.”  24:18 says, “Like a club or a sword or a sharp arrow is one who gives false testimony against a neighbor.”  Finally, 26:18-19 says, “Like a maniac shooting flaming arrows of death is one who deceives their neighbor and says, ‘I was only joking!’”  There’s nothing funny about being a bad neighbor.  Sometimes we need a Mr. Rogers, a Book of Virtues, or a Robert Frost to tell us that.

            In his famous poem, “Mending Wall,” Robert Frost tells of two neighbors who meet to repair the wall between them.  Every Spring they find that it has been damaged by water or frozen ground-swell, or by hunters and their dogs.  Each year they walk the line between them, picking up stones that have fallen, and replacing them.  Frost intones, “Something there is that doesn’t love a wall,” meaning that it seems nature itself conspires to tear down this artificial boundary that men erect between one another.  He wants to tell his neighbor that walls are for keeping cows in, not people out—and they don’t even have any cows.  Frost continues:


Before I built a wall I'd ask to know
What I was walling in or walling out,
And to whom I was like to give offence.
Something there is that doesn't love a wall,
That wants it down." I could say "Elves" to him,
But it's not elves exactly, and I'd rather
He said it for himself. I see him there
Bringing a stone grasped firmly by the top
In each hand, like an old-stone savage armed.
He moves in darkness as it seems to me,
Not of woods only and the shade of trees.
He will not go behind his father's saying,
And he likes having thought of it so well
He says again, "Good fences make good neighbours."


But Frost’s point is that they don’t.  What makes good neighbors isn’t keeping up walls and holding each other at arm’s length.  What makes good neighbors is love.  Galatians 5:14 says, “For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: Love your neighbor as yourself.’”  This goes for the people who live near us, the people who live across our borders, and the people who are hardest to love.  When we can learn to love our neighbor as ourselves, we will look even at the least savory and say, “Would you be mine, could you be mine?  Won’t you be my neighbor?”



[i] Mister Rogers' Neighborhood: A History.  https://www.fredrogers.org/fred-rogers/bio/index-test.php.  August 27, 2018.
[ii] Scuillo, Maria.  “Tom Hanks-as-Fred Rogers film, 'You Are My Friend,' begins shooting in Pittsburgh this fall.”  Pittsburgh Post-Gazette.  August 27, 2018.  http://www.post-gazette.com/ae/movies/2018/07/06/Tom-Hanks-Fred-Rogers-film-to-be-shot-in-Pittsburgh-this-fall/stories/201807050089.  August 27, 2018.
[iii]WON'T YOU BE MY NEIGHBOR? - Official Trailer [HD] - In Select Theaters June 8. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FhwktRDG_aQ.  August 27, 2018.
[iv] Scripture quotations are taken from the NIV.

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